Just like we are being carried in for nine (9) months and given birth, thereafter we grow from infant stage to childhood and from there to teenage hood and then till adult and get married.
Many have said that Marriage is the beginning of the family and is a life-long commitment. It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children.
To crown it all ,marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union.
But the facts remain that marriage will continue to educate everyone as far as many has learn some mistakes.
very, quick one... before going into Marriage, there are several things you need to know.
I will show you ten(10) good things every man and woman should note before going marriage.
below they are
1.Expectations
Firstly,before going into Marriage, you should have
Your expectations about the married life. You have to be aware of the expectations you are bringing into the marriage.
It's healthy to have expectations of respect, affection, intimacy, time together, and so on. Being in a healthy marriage means you are getting your needs met by a person you love and trust.
2.Partners family
When you go into Marriage, you should know that Your partner's family is more important because you are meeting them for the first time and you need to learn money things.
You should also know that Your husband or wife's family are your in-laws. You call members of your spouse's family "mother-in-law", "brother-in-law", and so on.
Your parent can also You can also call your spouse "daughter-in-law" or "son-in-law".
3.Your values
values will make you feel safe, comfortable, inspired, passionate, and connected to their partner and within the relationship.
Ways to uphold that value
A.Trust.
Your ability to trust your partner and your partner's ability to trust you is the foundation upon which you'll build the framework for your entire relationship.
B.The way you will raise your children.
C.Time: how do you spend time together.
D.Money: how do you spend your money together
E.Work Ethic: what work have you decided to do.
F. Family Planning.
4.Managing Finances
Keep in mind that money is usually tied up in feelings about power and control in a relationship. Having as much balance as possible between partners can make it less stressful for both people. Extreme financial stress can sink the ship of any good relationship.
The problem is that it can cause serious relationship problems in any form. ... Plus, dishonesty about finances could lead to problems such as hidden credit card debt that delays common relationship milestones such as buying a home together. Financial infidelity is something both partners should agree never to engage in.
5.Communication
You need communication Marriage to allow good thoughts and feelings to flow between a you both
Marriage without communication, is unsustainable. You might find that you are not really mindful of making each other a priority.
so when the communication starts to slip the marriage can head into a danger zone.
As a man and woman, Communicate consistently and communicate about everything With the right skills, bickering, hurt feelings and resentment will go way down
6.Value partnership
Going into marriage with the mindset of partnering with your spouse wouldbe of greatness to you both.When you both partner together, it means you are equally committed to the marriage.
Partnering with your spouse would help solve problems in the marriage.
You can partner with you spouse in times of having similar amount of emotional investment in your marriage that can help you succeed or business.
7.Being friends
Friendship helps married couples to feel safe enough to be more open with one another without worrying about being judged or feeling insecure.
Nurturing and building that friendship in marriage does require practice and takes time and effort.
Well, as it turns out, maintaining strong friendships with your spouse in marriage is absolutely critical to our health, emotional wellbeing, and, subsequently, to the ultimate success of your marriage.
good ways to become friends to your house is
A.Be faithful to each other
B.Believe in each other.
C.Embrace each other's differences.
D.Be real and transparent to each other.
E.Be a safe place for your spouse to stay.
F.Be fun and creative with him/her.
G.Bear each other's burdens.
8.Work on projects together
Before going into marriage, know that a project might some how come the will need help.
So Working with your spouse on a project comes with a lot of pros. One pro is sharing the same goals and values and being able to celebrate success together.
When you are celebrating, Doing these will eventually make your spouse actually knows what you are celebrating and why it is important.
Couples who work on a project together may have difficulty maintaining separate identities or being able to recharge away from their spouses.
9. Play together
Talking about playing together, this means that you both will be engaging in fun, novel activities.
This will make you both grow closer to each other and making you both to stay together.
Studies shows that survey couple's who are more playful in their marriage tends to experience more positive emotions, be more satisfied with their union, and feel closer to each other.
10 Intimacy
Lastly, before going into marriage with your partner, you should marry them for intimacy.
When you both have an Intimacy, then you can care for each other openly and vulnerablly.
Don't go into marriage or marry someone without inticmacy because will weaken relationship.
But when you have intimacy, you both will feel safe, connected and creates a positive cycle that bonds the two of you as a couple together with good self-confidence.
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