The need to survive has become the most important thing for any married partners, not just for couples alone but for all. To meet the demand of running a family, couples go into doing different jobs to make ends meet.

Most times, after a long day of work and duty, couples may come back home to eat, rest, and prepare for the next day without having to meet as they should.

Many factors may play a role in determining the number of times a husband and wife should meet in a month, some of these factors include.

1. The nature of Job both couples do.

2. The religious beliefs of both couples

3. The emotional status of both Couples.

4. The socialization perspective of both couples.

However, a husband and wife should make out quality time for the both of them to meet, couples should not prioritize money over the time they should spend together.

No written literature has standardized the number of times couples should meet in a month but for me, it will be appropriate for a husband and wife to meet more than fifteen times in a month

 Before getting married to your soul mate or missing rib as some people call it, there are different phases you will go through while in the relationship before finally landing in the final stage which is 'marriage'.

1. Merge

2. Doubt and denial

3. Disillusionment

4. The decision 

5. Wholehearted love

1. Merge

Also known as the 'honeymoon stage' is the stage where couples usually feel like they have found their 'perfect match' by that I mean they feel like they have found someone who completes them, who has similar characteristics with them, who they think are compatible with them.

This lovey-dovey stage is usually controlled by biochemical changes and hormones in the brain which include dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphins. This stage often makes couples ignore the red flags and have the misconception 'they are gonna change sometime soon', incompatibilities etc.

Possible solution

In this stage, it is advisable to take a backward step and ask yourself some questions concerning your emotions and relationship. Try not to make a permanent decision because of a temporary feeling you are having. Seek advice from credible people who have gone past this stage. Remember at this stage your emotions are heightened thereby blocking you from observing those red flags on time. At this stage, it seems you have a fog in your eyes that blocks you from seeing the reality of things so be very wise.

 2. Doubt and Denial

 this stage, you begin to notice that those little details about your partners you saw as perfection begins to annoy you.

You begin to doubt if this was the person that you fell in love with and saw as perfect.

You begin to notice the differences between you and your partner and how incompatible you both are. Sometimes, you have some thoughts of regrets and may think of backing out. Those good morning and good night text messages you were always waiting for suddenly become irritating to you. The struggle for power between you both becomes so real that you begin to have some feeling of denial in the process.

Possible Solution

It is very advisable to efficiently know the skills of conflict management and relationship problems. Also, use this stage to learn and study your love languages, every relationship has their different love languages. Differentiate between unhealthy control issues and healthy disagreements

This stage feels like the 'dead end' for some couples. The power struggle becomes real and those things they shoved under the carpet becomes glaring and very lucid. They begin to feel insecure and are more vigilant. They are ready to go to the battlefield at the slightest provocation. Some couples quietly move apart, put less energy into the relationship and prefer investing outside of it. The letter 'I' is used more frequently than the 'We' that always prevailed.

Possible solution

At this stage, it is advisable to clear the air as much as possible and Create space. This is the stage where dialogue is very much permitted to come in to the picture. Try as much as possible not to shove things under the carpet.

At this stage, the brain only notices the 'negatives' and not the 'positives' as was in the merge stage. Try offsetting this process with a practice of gratitude. You will be glad you did.

This stage is known as the 'breaking point'.

Emotional breakdowns, leaving the house for hours just to prevent you from seeing one another is very common and most likely to occur. You begin contemplating leaving and exiting or staying in the relationship and doing nothing despite how miserable it is.

Thoughts of starting a fresh new enticing relationship begin to pop into your head.

The 'I don't care' attitude begins to be the order for the day. Statements like 'Okay, fine! Do whatever you like' are frequently said. 

Possible Solution

It is very much advisable to take a new path. Learn new communication skills. Do some work in the relationship like knowing your own role in the relationship's deterioration and seeking ways to address it.

In this stage, couples experience true individuation, self-discovery, and the acceptance of imperfection in both themselves and their partners, recognizing there is no such thing as a "perfect match."

In this stage, a lot if hard work is involved and the difference is that couples know how to listen well and lean into uncomfortable conversations without feeling threatened or attacking one another. They can laugh, relax, and deeply enjoy each other. They even can experience some of the thrilling passion, joys, and sex of the Merge stage as each person rediscovers themselves in ways that let them fall in love with each other all over again.

In this stage, there is generosity, humor, flexibility, resilience, good boundaries, self-care, and a life with meaning and purpose. Couples are able to stay in this stage as long as they're able to continually sustain their own wholeness as individuals, so make self-care and self-growth continual goals.

 Calm down my guy. There is no magic charm or love portion you can use to make any girl fall in love with you.

But there is for sure what you can do to increase the chances of getting a yes from her in 24 hours straight.

Let me share with you 10 expert advice and practically proven tips that can make any girl fall in love with you.

1. Listen to her.

Girls like men who will listen to them and when you become that guy that open his ears, you make it easy winning any other guy pursuing her

2. Give her compliments

You look great on that dress. Can I tell you a secret? You are gorgeous. Words like this can make any girl fall for you

3. Show her some support

Even though you don`t have to agree on everything she says but you have to show her you respect and value her life decisions. This alone can make her like you

4. Give her all the attention she wants

Whether you know it or not, every girl craves attention. Give her that attention she desires and watch her fall for you

5. Treat her like a queen

Please tell me which girl will not like it when you treat her well?

So, treat the girl well. Open the door for her. Pull the chair for her. If you show her you care, she will melt for you

6. Tell her sweet words

Tell her you enjoy being with her and that your life will be boring without her. You can drop her a text or emails to make her know you think about her. Make your words always appealing.

7. Give her flowers

A $1 flower or any other sort of surprise can make a girl know how much you love her. Many guys shy away from this tiny gesture but it might be a you need for an edge.

8. Be clean and smell nice

A dirty socks or a smelly mouth can kill the date. Girls like it when everything is clean. So make extra effort to b e clean inside out. Also smell nice too. Buy a good cologne. It might be all you will need.

9. Up your sense of humor

Of course you don`t have to be mr. Bean to get a lady you want but when you show any girl that you can be fun to be with, you are making it easy for her to let her wall down so you can jump right in.

10. Seal the deal by telling her you love her

Many guys fail at this point. But for the fact that you read to this point, I believe you will be different.

I once asked a girl what was the best compliment she ever got and you know what she answered? The L word.

If you want any girl to fall in love with you just be confident and follow the steps outlined above and you can get any girl. I know you can do it. Please if you enjoyed this comment 'Great tips' and please share

Men listen, they lied to you people.

If you have money without a good character 

You are nothing but a National Cake, cut and go Ripe Corn planted by the Roadside, anyone can pass and harvest, no woman with her right senses will keep you as her man, you know that saying, its only the foolish that goes to the market to buy the rotten goods.

We all have bad habits. Some habits are minor or insignificant. Other habits are very serious that when repeated, they can be extremely annoying to your spouse and they can ruin your marriage permanently. Keeping secrets is one very bad habit that can ruin your marriage. Seriously bad habits include money secrets; secret bank accounts, secrecy credit cards, secrets loans.

They could also be secret relationships, secret conversations with your mother of father, secret lovers, secret friends, secret affairs, secret messages, secret phone calls, and secret text messages, secret Facebook accounts, etc. Whatever you hide from your spouse will eventually destroy your marriage. The same Devil who helps you conceal your secrets with will reveal them to your spouse. Protect your marriage.

2. Lies kills marriage: no marriage can stand the test of time when lies is involved. one thing you must never bring into your relationship is to be Lieing to that person who truly loves you. Your partner will find it very difficult to trust you no matter how you try to work hard to makeup with your past.