Tension and conflict are inevitable part in a relationship. It might be in a way, he says, he Will call you but didn, 't. It might be in a way he/she interact with someone and you get jealous. There are so many behaviors which can kill a relationship, here are some of them.
1. We go silent
When our partner does what we don, 't like we go into ourselves, and we give them the silent treatment.
2. We storm off
When something happen, We storm off not giving them a chance to explain.
3. We label our partner
Instead of saying that was a selfish thing you did, we say, your a selfish person.
4. You make the argument black and white
We make the argument black and white, his wrong your right, and there is no room for interpretation or listening to both sides of the argument.
5. You vent to your friends
Instead of communicating with him, you vent to your friends, and make argument against them.
6. You attack
You go on the attack with vicious comments that are designed to inflict pain not solve problems.
What we have to know about these reactions are the reaction to fear. Fear that we are not enough, fear that we won't be loved, fear of abandonment etc. when we are afraid we do and say crazy things.
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